Why AA and other 12 Step programs are not good for addicts

I am a recovering sex addict and I can speak from person experience. When I first was introduced to pornography as a child it destroyed me. It became a drug, even for me as a five year old boy. I lived a secret life in pornography and masturbation. No one new my sinful habits. Each time I did it, I felt so ashamed and no one told me that it was wrong. I secretly did other shameful sexual acts that are not going to be spoken of.


…now lets fast forward to life as a young adult….

In Junior High, the boys already joking talked about masturbation, yes, even in a Christian School. That is how I know that not all children who attend these Christian Schools are not real Christians. They joked about kissing girls and sex and pornography…

..now lets fast forward to life an adult….

For years trapped in pornography, and then it escalated to per-marital sex. (The world thinks that per-maritial sex is ok but this is the God’s way).


Pornography makes boy, young men, men, and old men view women as just skin and beauty, lifeless “things” that are not special, not good and just for making a man sexually pleased. A Dog.


Let’s get to the point…


Why am I saying that AA and other 12 steps of recovery for addition are not good? Because if the “recovery” is not defined by a “new spirit”, “sin forgiven” and “Jesus as the only Lord and Savior” then…you’re recovery is just “an outside act with no real relationship with the True God” and you are leading others into making a god of Your Own Understanding…which is the most wicked thing…It’s called Idolatry.

To reject the True Creator, the Lord Jesus Christ and then “make” or “choose” to understand god as “you” see it makes you seem spiritual and recovery-like but you have worshiped and served another god.


I am sober, and not practicing masturbation, or lusting after women ONLY by the power of Jesus Christ. Not because “I” make a god “of my own understanding”. Not because I attended 12 step meetings (which did not work). Not by calling free help hot lines (which did not work), not by seeing Psychiatrists (which didn’t work, even the Dr. promoting watching port with my wife as “some couples” do.)

The Only One that helped me was Jesus Christ? How? He showed me How lost I was. I was lost-hell-bound, and without my wife and children, but Jesus showed me that He died for me and that all my sins are paid for and a new life was possible. I did not have to be trapped to sexual sins no more. He showed me that Jesus was always there to save me and give me true and Godly motives.

Satan in still in the business of leading other astray using deception as his primary tactic. I know first hand of the temptation Satan brings and the only weapon I have and Only One I trust in the God of Heaven and Earth, revealed in the Bible, Jesus Christ. No One else. I am giving all the thanks and glory to Him and not any work that I did.



In my dark past, the experience I had in AA and SA was sad. Sponsors, who were supposed to be like mentors you look up to, all rejected me and left me only deeper in my addition. They actually told me to ‘ditch the Son of a B****” that I call god and get yourself a new one. What was that? That was the most blasphemous thing I ever heard in my life. I spoke to Pastors and they encouraged confession and reconciliation to my wife, not a life of secrecy talking to a stranger.

Husbands are supposed to tell their wife the most intimate things not someone else.

You might disagree with me but I do not care. The only point I am trying to stress is this.

The answer is what Jesus said, “Go into all the world and make disciples” and “preach the gospel”


(Matthew 28:18-20)
And Jesus came and said to them, All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.